I tend to be the initiator on the vast majority of the dates I go on, so this system of paying for the drinks or meals I initiate goes a long way to prevent any awkward uncertainty.
The way I see it, if they don’t have to pay for anything, they’re more likely to join me, enjoy it, and be glad they went.
Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.
It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.
once dated a man who was so quietly graceful that it took me years to even realize that that was the dominant feature of his character.
In reflecting upon the relationship, I often thought about how peaceful and untroubled I felt during it.
He just said “yes.” And the most touching thing, once the lesson was over and open dancing began, was that he wasn’t terribly light on his feet.
But he didn’t quit or make self-conscious wisecracks.
So I guess opposites attract, or I just enjoy the awkward interactions/comical antics of doing activities with someone much taller than I? Standing out (physically) my whole life has led me to be much more confident and fearless of being different. There are definitely a lot of great guys who only see six feet as one small part of who I am.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.
While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping.
In a society where there are ideals of femininity and masculinity, it can be difficult for individuals who don't fit neatly into those boxes.